"Are you a virgin?" "Have you ever had sex before?" "Ever popped a cherry?" "Ever hit a home run?"
in my opinion, the answers to these questions can greatly affect how you perceive a person

though sex is a common topic of conversation nowadays, talking about having sex is much rarer..not many people will admit to have lost their virginity, but many people will wear their 'V' badge with pride

i know quite a number of people who've done it already and so now, it doesn't come as a big shock to me anymore.. like i remember the first time i heard from a friend, i think i said 'Whoa shit! how was it?!' or something like that :p

in this modern society, are we all bred to be sexually active kids? i guess that pornography and the rest of the global media (movies, tv, magazines etc) has a huge influence on everybody, whether we'd like to admit it or not, our lifestyle is determined by the media.. what's cool to wear? what's good to drink? what's 'in'? and what's 'out'? what's 'hot'? what's 'not'? at least one aspect of your life has been affected or influenced by the rest of the world

which brings me back to the topic of sex.. is it necessary in a non-marital relationship? nevermind that you might get married in the future, but would you have it before marriage? for me, i hold beliefs that it should be saved for after marriage due to a few reasons: mainly religion and safety..

i haven't garnered enough information on what sex does for a relationship (having no experiences :p) but i've heard abit from other people:

"a relationship isn't complete without sex"
"sex drives a relationship"
"there's no relationship without sex"


we'll keep in mind that all these were said after they have had sex.. what if they didn't have sex? would they consider their relationships incomplete then? but they didn't know about sex till they tried it

it's like a kid in pre-school doing basic math- adding and minusing..after he finishes learning everything about math in pre-school, he believes his maths is complete, and there's nothing more to learn, but when he goes to primary school, he starts learning more maths, multiplication and division, and he realises that his maths isn't complete anymore.. i guess you could compare that to sex in a relationship- you don't know if it's complete till you've done everything

but i know couples who are happy in their 'sex-free' relationships, and because they disagree with having pre-marital sex, i doubt anything could make them happier bar getting married and spending the rest of their lives together

if there was a sexually active couple compared with a sexually inactive couple, who would be a happier couple? considering they are all happy with where they are at the current stage of their relationship

i would believe they would be equally happy, just that one of them would be like a kid who just finished learning pre-school math, and the other, a kid who completed primary school math